How to Be a Successful Stay At Home Mom
Written by Katie Rössler and Noreen Greimann
Being a stay at home mom can be hard. It can be challenging. It can be outright frustrating. But we all know that there is also endless joy to be had. Do the joyous moments outnumber the tough times? Not always.
Fortunately, we live in an age where the answer is only a click away, right? We head to google in search for answers and find articles with lists of tips on how to manage it all.
When our daughter was one, I went from working full time to stay at home mom and entrepreneur. To say I was overwhelmed is an understatement. I read those articles that promised to have the answers. Make a plan. Make time for yourself. Get enough sleep. Get out of the house.
All I could think was, “Well, that all sounds good but how am I actually going to do that?”
It’s a topic that comes up frequently when I speak with moms, which is why I’m excited to introduce you to Katie Rössler. Katie is a licensed counselor who helps moms go from feeling overwhelmed to being in charge and fully enjoying being stay at home moms.
Today, she is sharing her experience of transitioning from working mom to being home with her children along with three steps you can use right away. And you will find my thoughts and experiences next to the blue lines.
From Stay at Home Mom to Chief Household Officer
As a stay at home mom, I wasn’t prepared for the complete change in mindset I would have about myself or my abilities. I went from being a super confident woman in the working world to questioning everything I was doing as a mom.
My “job” taking care of the home made me angry and bitter towards my partner, and it started to impact my view of being a mom as well.
It wasn’t until I started reading books about being an entrepreneur that I realized taking care of my home and family is exactly like an entrepreneur runs a business! This realization changed my life.
Being a mom is part of my identity and being a Chief Household Officer (CHO) is my job.
By defining what being a CHO means, I know what improvements I can make.
Think about it, in the workplace if you are given a title but no job description it is very hard to self-motivate. But, if you are given a title with a job description, all of a sudden you know what needs to be done and are willing to learn the skills you may not know how to do as well.
3 Steps For Becoming a Successful Stay At Home Mom (aka Chief Household Officer)
STEP 1: Understand your values and mission
Sit down and write out what is important to you as a person and what is important to your family. Create a mission statement for yourself and your family to start to motivate and guide all of you each day.
Trinity H.,a mom of two, shared her beautiful vision for her family with me [Noreen] recently. As I read through it, I found myself nodding and smiling. She talked about spending time in nature, enjoying art, playing together and many other wonderful activities. But despite having this very clear vision, she said…
“I want our days to be relaxed and not scheduled but instead, we often don’t end up doing what we value – we just kind of go through the day without connecting or they are packed too full.”
And that brings us to Katie’s Step #2
STEP 2: Purposefully plan
Look at your week ahead and schedule based on what is important to you and your family first. If part of what is important to me is being less stressed so I am a better mom and wife, then I will want to get challenging tasks done at the beginning of the week when I am motivated and have the energy. I will want to declutter so my home is calming to me, and I will make sure not to over commit myself by saying yes to every request. Create a plan and schedule that makes sense for your family.
Like Trinity, I have always had a long list of all the wonderful things I wanted to do with my children and for myself. And yet, I wasn’t doing them because I was too overwhelmed. One day, I decided to write it all out in a weekly calendar, as Katie suggests. It didn’t take long for me to realize that there simply wasn’t enough time in the day to do all the things I envisioned. It was time to prioritize. And that is something I have to regularly remind myself of.
STEP 3: Put your plan into action
Be the change you want to see in your home. Put your plan into action and create a space you enjoy working and living in. Take time to be a mom and take time to be a CHO. By creating a schedule that matters to me, I am less likely to procrastinate and more likely to push through the “…but I don’t wanna!”
The Main Reason Stay At Home Moms Struggle
Becoming a Chief Household Officer doesn’t happen overnight, just like any other job. We have to learn what this job means and how to improve it. If I had issues in the workplace with one of my skill sets, I would read books about how to improve, go to workshops, and make sure that I had the resources I needed to do a better job.
As I mentioned earlier, there are many resources at our fingertips. But something is missing from them. Otherwise, we would all excel at being moms. The missing link?
Support and accountability. In the workforce, we are part of a team that supports us. We are held accountable for what we do and don’t do. But in our homes, we are alone. And that makes it very hard. Lucky for us though, we have Katie who can help with that.
I created a program that teaches moms how to go from Stay at Home Mom to becoming Chief Household Officer. If you would like support in identifying your values, mission statement, planning purposefully, or putting your ideas into action in your home and in your family check out my website and sign up for emails to find out about free webinars and when the next program class will be.
You are an amazing mom!
Let me help you be an amazing Chief Household Officer too!
Katie Rössler is a licensed professional counselor from the United States living in Germany. She has over 10 years experience working with individuals, couples and families working on improving their lives and relationships. She is the creator of the From Stay at Home Mom to Chief Household Officer program which teaches and empowers mothers who stay at home full or part-time to run their households like entrepreneurs do a business. Katie has two beautiful toddler girls who keep her family very active outside. She runs for a local running team made up of only moms and loves to bullet journal to keep her purposeful plans organized.