With Mother’s Day approaching this weekend, my Facebook newsfeed has been filled with quotes and articles about moms. Yours, too?
Quotes that remind us that we are wonderful. That we do our very best and don’t need to do more. That this time when our little ones are young is precious and we need to savor it. That when you become a mother you give up a part of yourself.
Just now I finished reading a post written by a mom about how moms that “are in the trenches” don’t get the recognition and celebration they deserve.
I’ll be honest with you. Some of these are nice reminders and make me feel like I’m not alone in this.
But the downside with these quotes and sayings and articles is that the feelings they elicit are short-lived. They give you a quick high. The leave you feeling that YES, this time is precious and YES, you are doing your very best.
And then the very next day (or even the very next moment) you are back in the midst of being your same old self. The self that wishes she could be more organized about her child’s activities. The self that wishes she would stop loosing her patience so often. The self that doesn’t feel appreciated.
We try really hard to get it all right. Every. Single. Day. Right? But we are not perfect. Rarely is there a day when everything just falls into place. Hiccups are part of life and especially part of parenting.
And at the end of the day, when the kids are in bed and we can finally relax, the things that pop into our head are the things that didn’t go well. The hiccups always have a way of sneaking to center stage. And that determines how we see ourselves. It’s not an accurate picture but it is incredibly persistent.
BUT it doesn’t have to be that way. You have the power to change your thoughts and consequently how you think of yourself with a simple technique. It requires less than 5 minutes of your day. And all you need is pen paper.
Are you ready? Are you ready to create a picture of the amazing mom you truly are?
- Print out this template or take a plain piece of paper.
- Place it on your nightstand or somewhere where you will see it first thing in the morning, along with a pen.
- Tomorrow morning, write down 3 things that would make the day awesome. And then write 3 things you are really good at. That can be parenting related or about yourself as a person. And it doesn’t have to be anything big. The small things count.
- In the evening, write down 3 amazing things that happened that day.
Now, you might think “Okay, I can just think about it all. I don’t need to write it down.” But you see, when you write something down on paper (not typing it) , a little magic happens in your brain. You internalize the message much more than if you were to just think about (or type it) because more areas of your brain light up. And therefore your brain is able to reference the stored information more easily. Hence, you learn.
The more often you do this exercise the stronger the message will get. When you end up in the midst of chaos, your brain will be able to quickly pull out all the awesomeness that is within you and allow you to take a deep breath. Being grounded is a great feeling.
I learned this little trick about a year ago and now I use it on a regular basis. I don’t do it every day, but when I begin to feel that life is pulling me down, I quickly grab pen and paper and start writing. And it works every single time!
Get started right now by printing out the template and make sure to place it somewhere you will remember to fill it out. Better yet, print a few pages and staple them together. You will be all set to turn this into a nice little habit that will have a huge impact.
And while you’re at, why not make a list of all the reasons your mom or mother-in-law is wonderful. Spreading kindness makes us happy as well. 🙂
For more ideas on how to start your day on the right track and get the most out of it, this article highlights 10 things we can all do. Just don’t try to do it all at once.
One last thought…
When my daughter went to a Montessori preschool, the teachers taught the children that they each have a little light inside of them that shines brightly and makes them unique. But when they are sad or scared, it dims. It was a way to teach children to be kind to each other.
That idea really stuck with me and I always think of that little light inside of me when I’m having a rough day and it reminds me to feed that flame with positive thoughts.
Let your inner light shine and feed it with notes about how awesome you are.
Happy Mother’s Day!